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That’s the fear – that by being allowed to embrace the institution of marriages, joyful same-sex couples will, by their celebration of the commitment and responsibilities marriage entails, ruin it for everyone else.

Yet a May 14 column by Tom Keane in the conservative Boston Herald notes that Nevada, ‘which ranks first in the country in its divorce rate (6.8 per 1,000 residents vs. a national average of 4.0),’ have a law against gay marriage . . . indeed, have ‘enshrined their anti-gay animus into the state constitution.’ While Massachusetts, ‘the only state to permit gay marriage, has the nation’s lowest divorce rate (2.4 per 1,000).’

Curious, isn’t it? [asks Keane] The state that most makes a mockery of marriage protests mightily against including gays while Massachusetts – derided for subverting marriage – seems to take the institution far more seriously.

Or perhaps it’s not so curious. Perhaps people in Massachusetts know a little bit better than most that marriage matters. And perhaps that point has been driven home after having watched gays struggle to secure that right for themselves, much in the same way that battles by blacks and women for the vote made us appreciate that suffrage was not something to be taken for granted. If so, then perhaps Monday will [prove to have been] a different line of demarcation than most think: More than just the expansion of equal rights, it may be the beginning of a new understanding of the gravity and obligations of this tattered institution we call marriage.


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